Most women respond to that feeling of “I must have him…NOW!” as the primary criteria for deciding which men are the “right” ones. 

I say “Run – in the opposite direction!”

Most often, when we’re responding to that surge of hormonal response, we’re operating from a very old and deep recognition of the same “type” that gets us in trouble every single time; he’s not really going to offer to us the love, care, and commitment we want.  Instead, we’ll get angst, insecurity, disappointment, and ultimately, failure.  It’s a “no-win” situation.

Instead, choose from your blueprint (the qualities and vision you can trust are right for you).  Stick to it, no matter how strong a tug you feel toward one of “those” men.  You’ll be happier!

So many women walk around with a philosophy that goes something like this:  “Show me that I can trust you, and then I will”, or “Prove to me that men aren’t jerks, and I’ll be happy to change my mind about them”. 

These same women are usually hoping to end up with a great man, if only they could stop encountering the men who keep letting them down, etc.

Moment of truth here: There are great men everywhere…absolutely everywhere.  We just have to have the right “filter” in order to see them.  If our filter is set on “Boy, there are a lot of creeps running around”, then guess what?  You see creeps (and attract them). 

My suggestion to you is this: work on changing your filter.  Make yourself listen for, see, and attract situations and stories about great men.  You’ll find that your filter will adjust itself, over time. 

What have you got to lose, except a bad attitude?  Let me know how it goes.